Don’t get distracted by initial failures and errors
Being tough, or just looking tough, are two different things. You don’t have to have the image of a street fighter to be emotionally resilient. It must come from within.
Increase your tolerance for adversity
If you're serious about becoming resilient, first increase your tolerance for pain. Accept things as they are. Have no expectations, and get rid of all feelings of entitlement.
It's about perspective. When you feel entitled to something, you're in the position when your expectations aren't always going to be met. That hurts, and then you lose control. Aim at being at peace with the good and bad in your life. Then you gain control over how you feel and think.
You need a support system based on trust
Don’t think you can handle everything on your own. You don’t always have to be independent, never needing any help. We need each other and we need our support network. Mental resilience is about knowing when to ask for help. It is about the ability to bury one’s ego, and there's strength in that. We can feel vulnerable, we may need help, and we choose who we let close to us, according to an article on the addicted2success.com website.
You and only you are responsible for your feelings
Blaming is easy. It allows us to ease the pain and create excuses. But by blaming others, we aren’t developing our resilience. If your partner cheated on you and your heart is broken, you feel the pain. Sure, it was your partner’s fault, but you're responsible for how you deal with it. Is that unfair? Maybe. But there's no other way to build emotional strength.
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