When you feel like bad things happen only to you, you are in a self-loathing stage. What you need to do is quickly change your thinking, change your mindset immediately, instead focus on what you can do to turn things around. If you fail to change your mindset, you will end up feeling worse and worse. Stop attacking yourself and take action.
Separate yourself from the bad things in the past. By refocusing your mind, you can take yourself from that low and start actually climbing up, advises the addicted2success.com website.
1) Recognize self-loathing when it takes place
And immediately refocus on something that will take you from that low. Listen to some motivational speakers or read some positive quotes. Anything that will pull your attention from the current failure or problem.
2) Don’t regret what happened in the past
Instead grieve for your mistakes… and then bury them. You also should use your past mistakes to compare how far you have come. Applaud yourself for moving ahead. You are now stronger and wiser. Learn from your past failures and move on.
3) Are you playing the victim?
When you start comparing yourself to others and their achievements, that is not good. First you have to know who you are as a person. You will never be anybody else and you must accept that. Instead of never being happy because you are not someone else begin to work to become the best version of yourself.
4) Don’t see yourself as a failure
You are never a failure as long as you are willing to keep fighting. Forgive all those who have harmed you, including yourself. Have you failed at something? Well it happens. It is not the end of the world. Give yourself some time to pause, change your strategy and work harder.
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